From October 2014

How Do You Get Past the Fear of Failure?

You’re afraid, nervous, fearful.

You know, that feeling you get in your gut when you think you don’t measure up, you’re not like everybody else, and you’re just not good enough.

Do you have what it takes?

 

Are you willing to put your work out there and possibly risk rejection, or worse….

 

FAILURE?

 

How do you get past the fear of failure?

I mean actually beat it, conquer it and overcome it until it no longer has a hold on you?

While I don’t claim to be an expert in this area as I still struggle with this frequently, (weekly…daily…hourly…Ok so this very minute!), I have a few ideas that might help you get past that pesky nuisance that keeps us feeling weighed down and stuck in our tracks.

 

Decide what you’re afraid of.

So you’re afraid of failure.

But what exactly does that look like?

Are you afraid of your friends and family finding out if you don’t succeed at becoming a writer or launching your desired project?

Or do you think everyone on Facebook will be laughing at you if your articles aren’t good enough?

What exactly is it that makes your palms sweaty, your face flush and your heartbeat race?

 

Once you know, then think about this.

 

Figure out why you’re afraid of it.

Do you think if your friends and family doubt your abilities then maybe they’re right and you should just give up?

Are you worried that you’ll be the laughing stock of your circle of friends?

 

Figuring out your reason will bring you clarity by knowing what is truly behind your fear.

 

Then, do this.

 

Come up with one thing you can do that will put you a step closer to your goal.

 

Choose a task to work on, and then work on it until it’s complete.

Or you might share your latest blog post on Facebook.

Whatever it might be, do something!

Sometimes taking a step in the right direction, even just one small, tiny step, will get us moving and pushing past our fears.

As we step away from our fears it will also get us a step further away from failure!

 

The biggest cure for failure is action!

 

As much as taking action will allow us to step out and get past our fear of failure, it does something else as well.

 

It gives us confidence.

 

And confidence, in turn, gives us more reason to keep moving.

The better we feel about ourselves, our work, and the direction we’re headed, the more our fear diminishes.

 

But even though it diminishes, it usually doesn’t totally go away.

 

So now what?

Three simple words.

 

Do it afraid!

 

Taking action will help you overcome your fear of failure, but it won’t totally destroy it.

 

Fear, of anything, has a way of digging in its heels and taking up residency for the long haul.

We can feel fear, but we don’t have to act on it…we can choose how to respond, move forward and live.

We can choose to get to work and head toward our goals, one step at a time.

 

How do you get past the fear of failure?

By chasing your dream, doing your best work, giving it your all, and moving forward.

By doing it afraid.

 

Has there been a time in your life when you had to get past your fear and do it afraid? We’d love to hear from you, please leave us a comment below!

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Get Rid of the Need to Have all the Answers Once and for All

Why do we think we need to have all the answers?

Even when writing a blog post.

Like we need to have everything well thought out, researched, and all problems solved.

 

I say, B.S.

 

This idea that we need to be perfect, that we have to be totally in control, know everything, and have all the answers is what’s keeping some of us from stepping out, moving forward and reaching our full potential.

 

Writing, (and business, for that matter), isn’t just about giving someone all the facts.

Don’t get me wrong, it can be.

If you’re writing a tutorial on something, or if you do have extensive knowledge on a particular subject.

But it doesn’t have to be.

 

We can write to connect with others, to have a relationship with people.

 

In real life, do you know more than most of the people you have relationships with?

Does everyone always look to you for all the answers?

 

Maybe, but I’m guessing probably not.

So why should your writing be any different?

 

You don’t need to have all the answers to write a blog post.

You can fill it with questions, and either point people in the right direction to find the answers themselves, or even leave questions unanswered. (Hey, if you wind up finding out the answers you have a great follow up post!)

 

You don’t need to have all the answers to write a book.

Some of the greatest books are the ones that just make you think, or ask yourself the questions that you have to find answers to. (This usually includes a fair amount of soul searching.)

 

You don’t need to know about everything to be active on social media.

Heck, half of Facebook is just reposting other peoples content anyway. Sure, you want it to be relevant to your audience, but do you really think that only we can write the best stuff? (Hint: NO! There are some mega talented writers out there, so share their stuff!)

 

I believe in writing what you know, yes, but I also believe that you can write about what you don’t know. Or maybe something you want to know. Or that someone else knows. (Guest posting, anyone)?

Although writing takes thought, and work, and time, (not to mention blood, sweat, and tears..usually many, many tears!), we don’t have to obsess over it until it’s perfect.

Because it never will be.

And neither will we.

 

Our blogs don’t have to be the best written.

Or the most popular.

Our books don’t have to hit the best seller list.

Every piece that we write doesn’t have to be error free, and make perfect sense.

 

Perfection is an illusion, but a powerful one.

It can keep you stuck dead in your tracks, and keep you from becoming all that you can be.

 

We won’t ever have all the answers.

That’s ok.

 

Just be you.

Just be a writer.

Give of yourself.

Leave the world a better place than it used to be.

 

Make a difference in the life of someone.

Even one person.

Because maybe, just maybe, you might have an answer that someone needs.

And they’ll never get it if you don’t put yourself out there.

 

So don’t think you need to have all the answers.

Just write.

 

Do you feel the need to have all the answers? Tell me how you’re dealing with it, or how you’ve overcome it, in the comments. As always, I love to hear from you!

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