From September 2014

Are You Really A Writer?

Let’s take the pressure off for a moment.

The pressure to write every day.

Feeling the pressure just makes me want to avoid it even more.

So am I really a writer?

Yes, yes I am.


Because I have decided to be one.

Not because I do everything right.

Not because I do what everyone else does

or do things the way they do.

But because I’m me.

I write.

It’s what I know.

It’s what I do.

It’s not perfect.

My grammar, words, and punctuation.

I don’t follow the ‘correct’ rules of writing.

But it’s OK.

I never did care for rules much anyway.

(Yes I’m that girl, the rule breaker!)

Not that writing everyday isn’t a good habit to get into.

It definitely is.

But if you feel pressured into writing every day,

then to me, it takes away from the joy.

I know we can’t always wait to be inspired

but if there is no joy in writing, then what’s the purpose?

You have to have joy in what you’re doing.

And freedom to do it when and how you want to.

Now I don’t mean if you have a client that you tell them you don’t feel like writing now so their material will be late.

But I mean if it’s your writing, for your website, business, journal, blog, or whatever…with your own self imposed deadlines,

Then you need to want to write.

Not forcefully.

Not because you feel guilty that you haven’t written.

Because I think it comes out in your writing.

If you’re writing for the sole purpose of saying ‘I wrote today’,

it will show,

and the world will know.

You have to have the desire to write.

It has to be because it’s what you’re choosing to do,

not because you feel like you have to…

because you don’t.

That being said,

if day after day you don’t feel like writing

and you choose not to,

then are you a writer?

Probably not.

because a writer will feel like writing and will want to write.

Not all the time.

Not every day.

But regularly.

So the key to being a writer is to write regularly.

Daily works for some.

Weekly works for others.

The best part of writing is the freedom that comes with it.

So if you’re writing because someone told you that you have to,

where’s the freedom in that?

You’re in charge of you,

of your writing,

of your life.

You decide if you write,

when you write,

and how you write.

You decide what to write about.

You make the choices based on what works best for you.

So if you think that you’re any less of a writer because you don’t write every day,

because you don’t keep up with the Jones’s, the current fad, the latest trend…

Then you’re wrong.

So are you really a writer?

Yes, yes you are.

You’re a writer because you write,

when, how and if you want to…

but you do write.

You show up,

do the work,

and love it.

Just because you don’t do it like everyone else

doesn’t mean you’re any less of a writer.

You’re really a writer,

and so am I.

Do you have a set time to write, write every day, or feel pressured to do so? I’d love to hear what works for you, let me know in the comments!

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5 Reasons You Should Write Every Day

As a follow up to the post 10 Reasons Not To Write, I thought it was equally important to showcase some of the reasons you should write every day.




Here are 5 reasons you should write every day:


1. Because you love it.

This sounds like a no brainer, but do you realize how many people actually do the things they love every day?

I’m afraid it would be less than you think.

Life seems to always get in the way.

We have to do all kinds of things that most of us probably aren’t crazy about…grocery shop, clean the house, yard work, eat. (Well ok, except for the eat part, you caught me there…I do love to eat!)

Writing every day, even with the best intentions, can tend to get put on the back burner with everything else there is to do.

I wish people would focus more on the things they love.

Yes, there will always be things we have to do…but in the end, you control your time and how you spend it.


Do more of what you love.


2. It lets you express your feelings.

Some people like to talk. (Guilty! Hey, I’m Italian, what can I say?)

For others, getting feelings out doesn’t come as easily.

Writing is a wonderful way to express the thoughts and emotions whirling around in your head.

Even when you’re a talker, there is still something therapeutic about getting your words out and on to paper, or screen.

Even if no one ever reads them but you, it’s ok…you still got them out instead of letting them fester inside of you.


Writing is the best form of therapy. And the cheapest.


3. It unleashes your creativity.

There’s nothing like being able to create something from nothing.

Seeing words that really say something on a page that was blank before is almost magical.

And knowing you put them there gives you a sense of accomplishment like no other.

Just think of all the movies, plays, books, songs, and more that have been written by people… people just like you.


You have a story inside of you. It’s your job to share it with the world.


4. It creates a habit.

When you do something once, it’s an event.

Twice, a repeat.

A few times, a series.

Whenever the mood strikes you, a hobby.

But when you do it every day, whether you feel like it or not, it becomes a habit.


When you’re a writer, writing is a good habit to have.


5. Because you’re a writer.

If you’re writing for a living, then you have deadlines, even if they’re self imposed.

You will likely have people to answer to…clients, editors, blog owners, publishers.

And if you don’t and you totally run your own business, then you still have to answer to someone…your mortgage lender, utility provider, insurance agent, your stomach. (We all have to eat, right?)

And if you’re writing for the sheer love of it, that’s ok too…see number one above.


You’re a writer, and a writer writes.


I hope these 5 reasons you should write everyday have been helpful and encouraging to you as a writer.


Have reasons of your own? Please share them with us in the comments.

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Love, Fame, Or Money- What Is Your Why?

What is your why?

I mean, seriously, why are you a writer?

What are your dreams, your plans, where would you like to see your passion taking you?

We know writers write…or you should be anyway if you are indeed a writer.

(If you want to be a writer but you’re not writing, then you’re actually not a writer, you’re a waiter. So start writing so you can call yourself a writer already!)


But why do you write?

Is it purely for the love of words, because you just have to express yourself and create?

Is it the desire for fame, so people will love your work and you can make a name for yourself?

Or is it the need for money…..because, hey, after all, we all have bills to pay, right?


I’ve heard people try to give explanations of why you should write for this reason or that.

That if you don’t love the work, you’ll burn out.

That you shouldn’t worry about being popular.

That it shouldn’t be about the money.


While all of the above might be partially true, I don’t agree with them one hundred percent. Life is more complicated than that, it’s not necessarily a one sided, cut and dried, black or white point of view.


I think it’s up to each of us to decide for ourselves what our why is.


And who says you have to have only one why?

Maybe you really do love the work, which hopefully is true to some degree. I can’t see a writer really succeeding who absolutely hates to write. But to say that it’s the most important thing in the world to you, that you’d be a lost soul without it, might be a bit extreme for some.

If you have a life filled with other positives, writing could indeed be just one of the things that makes you happy.


But who doesn’t want to see their work admired, appreciated, and respected?

Whether or not your goal is to be a household name or just get a few articles published, most of us want to see our writing out there.

If you’re strictly writing for yourself then that might not be the case, but you’d probably secretly like to see your work get recognized. 😉


Ah, then there is the money part.

Why is it that some die hard writers act as if you’ve crossed a line if you’re concerned with the financial aspect of writing?

Like it somehow ‘dirties up’ your work to be paid for it?

Again, while the love of writing is great, unless you’re so super wealthy that you can afford to just write, write, write, and never worry about paying bills, eating, or doing anything else, it’s fairly unrealistic to not be doing it for the money.

I didn’t say that has to be the only reason, but surely it’s one of them.


Who wouldn’t want to be paid well to do what you love, while having that work recognized?

Writing is a win/win/win situation! (Especially for those of us who aren’t cut out for a traditional job!)

You can be mindful of all three, because you’re a writer….you’re in control, and the choice is up to you.

Only you can decide what your why is.


What is your why? Share it with us in the comments!

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5 Ways to Get Inspired Now

We all get in slumps. It happens. I would even dare to say it’s normal…especially for us creative folk.

And sometimes it just takes time. Time to get through our troubles, time to figure things out.

But other times, we just need to give ourselves a kick in the pants and MOVE!


Here are a few simple ways you can pull yourself out of the pit and get inspired NOW!


Here are 5 Ways to Get Inspired Now


Read a good book

Notice I said, a good book, not just any book.

“Well how am I supposed to know if it’s good if I haven’t read it yet?”, you’re probably thinking.

True, you don’t. But look for books that have inspiring, motivational titles, and read the cover notes.

One of my favorites for inspiration is Norman Vincent Peale, I always put his books down feeling like I can take on the world and accomplish anything!


Watch a movie

Movies have a way of staying with us. Do you ever watch something, go to bed, then lie there and think about the story for awhile? (Or am I weird and the only one?)

A good movie can lift our spirits, especially a funny one.

Laughter is the best medicine they say, and it’s true…it’s really hard to stay in a slump and bogged down when you’re laughing.

Or movies about a real life scenario, someone overcoming the odds and emerging victorious. Seeing someone else have success always spurs me on and helps me to get inspired now.


Listen to Your Kind of Uplifting Music

Now I’m sure you noticed that I added ‘Your Kind’ and not just uplifting music, and the reason is probably obvious.

We all like different things. What’s uplifting to some might be downright boring to the rest of us, while what motivates you might seem like just loud noise to others.

Music has a way of reaching into our souls, and has the capacity to boost our spirits.

Just try it. Play your favorite songs for awhile and watch how motivated and inspired you get. (And feel free to have a solo dance party!)


Eat Your Favorite Food

Yes, I just told you to go against the advice of every weight loss professional out there and eat for emotional reasons.

But let me clarify: I’m not talking about eating everything in the pantry and consuming too much chocolate. (If there were such a thing as too much chocolate!)

I’m talking about a planning to go to your favorite restaurant, cook your favorite food, or making sure you have your favorite snack on hand.

Let’s face it…food is enjoyable. (For some of us more than others!)

Is this wrong? I don’t think so. Just as long as you’re using this as a once in awhile mood lifter and not making it a daily crutch.


Change Your Environment

Now I don’t mean move out and leave your family, quit your job (if you’re working), or any drastic measures like that.

What I do mean is to take a break.

If you’re at work, take off at lunch, even if it’s just to go for a walk.

If you’re at home, get out of the house. (If you have kids, then schedule a night out and leave them with your partner.)

Just get yourself out of your environment and into something different.

Although change is scary for some of us, a temporary change can actually create a mind shift that can help you get inspired.


Hopefully these 5 ways to get inspired now will help you if you find yourself uninspired.

How do you get inspired? I’d love to know…share with us in the comments.

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